How to Know Your over IT (whatever IT may be)

You know what I can't stand??? I cannot stand it when people that I've known forever just up and change for the worse for no apparent reason.

I had a friend going up, I've known him since I was about 8yrs old. And we were always relatively close. For many years I counted him amongst my favorite friends. Then over these past couple years, he started changing, all the sudden he never came to church anymore, he never wanted to see me or hang out, or even reply to my msgs on Facebook. He started partying and drinking, and hanging out with a ton of gay people. Naturally he denied all these things and it took him 2 years to tell me that he was Bi-sexual. I'd always ask him if he was, and he always said no.

Then he moved to California and felt like he could talk to me again for whatever reason, but I didn't want to talk. I was angry, and hurt that he had shut me out of his life when all I wanted to do was be there for him. Then he moves across the country and has the nerve to pretend we're friends! PLEASE!

So I sent him a long msg pretty much saying that I was done and that I realize we'd grown apart, wishing him a nice life, and letting him know that I wouldn't think of him or worry about him anymore. I realize now, that when you honestly don't care about somebody, you don't ever think to yourself, "I wonder how so and so is doing?"

I can't tell you HOW to get over something or someone, because in truth it IS case sensitive, but I know of one method that will work for anybody, don't think about it/them. Any time you feel your mind drifting towards that area, just distract yourself. Watch some meaningless cartoons, or draw, paint, sing, go for a drive, whatever! Just don't sit and dwell on it, that only makes it worse. (and for you girls out there who will apply this to guys, don't sit around day dreaming in If Then's. If I look really good then, If I lose the weight then, If I make him jealous then, DON'T DO IT! Because your not hurting HIM. your only hurting you.